With all its busyness and emphasis on family and social interaction, the holidays can magnify feelings of isolation or loneliness for those who can’t be with family or don’t have family to be with. It’s easy to feel left out when you’re surrounded by others who are putting so much time and energy into preparing for the holidays in anticipation of being with their loved ones or taking care of their families. Don’t give in to feelings of isolation. Get out of your house and go somewhere where you can be with others who appreciate what you have to offer – whether it’s time, money or attention.

Helping others in need has a profoundly healing and uplifting effect, both physiological and psychological. Bringing joy to others can provide a sense of meaningful connection if you’re feeling left out and it helps you to appreciate how much you already have to be thankful and happy for.

I know of people who, on Christmas eve, like to take a big wad of cash with them and go to a part of town where homeless people or others in need are hanging around and surprise them by “gifting” them with $10 or $20 or even $50 (depending on your budget of course). The look of surprise and joy in the receiver’s eyes is gift enough for them.

You don’t need to give away money to make a difference in someone else’s life. Do a volunteer shift or two at a local soup kitchen or toy drive or offer to buy a bag of groceries for a family in need (this can be done anonymously if that makes it easier). Go to a local house of worship and attend a sermon. If you feel yourself falling into a sinkhole of loneliness and/or depression, there are many ways to pull yourself out. So don’t give in to the urge to withdraw or become reclusive. Reach out instead!